Ok, its been such a long time since I added anything here and David's been on my back about visiting and never seeing anything new. Like I don't have enough things to do already, I have to worry about my blogs as well. Laughing

WELL HERE, THIS IS FOR YOU!

I've been busy with work and a number of projects for some clients on contract. It's been tough trying to allocate time for everything - including family. There is however another reason I've not blogged recently; most of the things I feel like bitching about are either family or friends of family related and it would cause some "bad blood" so to speak if I let my feelings known... Ahhh... who the * (insert colorful metaphor(s) here) cares i'll post them anyways...or not...

To blog or not to blog. That is the question that preoccupies my mind. (A little take on ST:V there Wink)

When the weekend comes, I would like to take that time to rest, relax & recover from the week basically not do anything. But it seems that every week, something comes up; we got to go to one house or another for a party or other function. And it's not just for the weekend, it could be anytime during the week.

We can't ALWAYS keep saying yes to going - we need time for ourselves so if we have to say no, there's a good reason. And we shouldn't have to justify saying no - it's up to us what we want to do. So if we can't or don't want to go, people shouldn't take it personally; unfortunately they do.

Another thing I don't like is when we're invited by proxy; somone invites my Mom and says bring them (us) along too. Now if they take the time to call us personally there's a better chance we'll show up because of the personal invite instead of "show up since you're part of the family" thing.

At a party on a (previous to this weekend) Saturday, one of these people said to me "why didn't you come to my house?" referring to a function a couple of days prior and i told this person bluntly exactly as above - "we can't always go everywhere; especially on a weekday when I have to wake up at 5am to get ready for work the next day; and that we only found out a couple of days prior to that (by proxy at that)". Then I was asked "but you're here today". And I replied "that's because it's the weekend". What I didn't say was "hey, you didn't call and personally invite us - unlike [those whose party we were at] did".

Afterwards I found out this person made comments to Nazima about "only seeing us at rich people's houses". And the person made a similar comment again this weekend to Nazima. They didn't make it to me, obviously they knew they would get another blunt and perhaps more rude response.

Now I wanted to go and tell this person off when Nazima first told me but she told me to leave it and that my blunt remark was enough. And when she told me about the second time, I just laughed it off for the reason above.

Personally what I believe is if someone wants us to come over their house or to a function, they should invite us personally otherwise don't expect us to show up just because they think inviting us by proxy was enough. And in either case WE decide if we can or want to go.

Right?